“I’m self-conscious enough about asking her to finger my ass for similar hair and poop-related reasons, and that’s something I really like.” What About Men Receiving Analingus? “I don’t want my partner to get anywhere near my extraordinarily hairy butt with her mouth,” says Jesse, a 29-year-old student from Seattle, echoing a common insecurity. Most of the men I talked to, however, are still more reluctant to receive. Now he gives and receives without a second thought. “I had a very gendered view of it before,” he says, adding that he used to think it was more acceptable to perform analingus “because it was daring,” but that receiving it felt more passive and feminine.
“The memeification of butt stuff definitely gave space for me to explore it,” explains Ben, a 24-year-old tele-support worker in Indiana, “without violating whatever dumb conceptions of masculinity or heterosexuality I had.” He credits Twitter, especially “weird Twitter, queer Twitter and socialist Twitter,” for his newfound open-mindedness.Ī post shared by Les Memes on at 12:46pm PDT Historically, analingus is a sex act that’s been associated most strongly with gay men, and this link has prevented certain straight men from partaking in what they view as a feminized activity - until now. The idea that it’s emasculating not to eat ass is certainly a cultural shift. “It’s almost emasculating to not do it now.” Ass Eating Memes Open Minds (And Other Things) “I’ve definitely overheard ‘Oh, you don’t eat ass?’ jokes between other men,” he says. He says he never used to discuss eating ass with his friends before the proliferation of memes and pop-culture references - “I not once ever heard none of my niggas talk about eating ass” - whereas now he’s observed a 180-degree shift, from analingus being something you would tease a friend for doing to an act he now hears his friends poke fun at each other for not performing. #asseatinszn #doggylove #frat #weekendplans #fridaymood?Ī post shared by TheDipDrip on at 12:46pm PST But there’s no question we’re all talking about eating ass much more now than we were before.Īccurate representation of my plans tonight. No one can agree on what exactly triggered the trend - the above Gawker article credits rapper Kevin Gates New York Magazine called a 2013 Playboy article on the topic “ canonical and groundbreaking ” and a 2001 Sex and the City episode is often cited as an early conversation starter.
In 2014, dubbed the Year of the Booty, the now-defunct Gawker observed that ass eating was enjoying a renaissance by 2018, our very own Ian Lecklitner told us that ass eating had “peaked” and Urban Daddy labeled the once-risque sex act “gentrified.” In under a decade, analingus has gone from being an almost unspeakable taboo to a memeable talking point so ubiquitous that, at my own family’s Christmas celebrations in suburban New Zealand last year, one of my very offline older male relatives announced that “kids are all into eating ass now.” In 2011, ass eating was still taboo enough that Kevin Hart could embarrass Shaquille O’Neal by suggesting he performed anilingus on his wife. “Of course, the enjoyment has gone up significantly because of it.”
“The memeification of ass play has greatly increased the amount of ass exploration that is being done in my sex life,” she continues. “As a very sexually active straight woman, over the last six months or so, every single straight guy I’ve had sex with asked to get his ass eaten,” she says, “or was at least open to it.” She adds that she tends to have sex with “very millennial” men who are “all pretty online,” and that they usually return the favor. Sam, a 23-year-old barista from Minneapolis, is telling me how the mainstreaming of eating ass has changed her sex life.